These people have not yet discovered the truth. They really believe that what they say is true; that something is not allowing them to be on time, rather than it being about personal choices. The truth is that we are directing our life and everything that happens is because of the decisions we make. It’s often about how much we’re friends with our subconscious.

A simple example: if I know my day is going to be full and busy, I will run from one thing to the other; meetings, work, chores etc. We always choose the way we spend the day. If you look back you hate yourself for planning the day this way. But now you feel obliged to do all things you’ve scheduled. Before you know it you’re delayed and you quickly get behind on your schedule. And then when you’re late to meet people later in the day you’re surprised when they are angry and frustrated.

It’s a chain of how we are strong and the universe tests us to see if we’re really hold the steering wheel, or if we let circumstances direct our lives. That is an example of how we are able to influence everything.

The first step is to think positively and then you’re already half way to success. Lets believe that I will have a nice day and feel joy and so will the people who surround me. The second part is about taking action. You get some people who are naïve and believe God will just ring their doorbell and bring success. And they can just sit back their entire life and not work for it.

No, no no! Action is essential.

So what can I do then? Well, we need to learn how to be creative and clear about our priorities. It’s quit simple. Two options: I can pretend that the day has 30 hours and fill up 20 hours with things I “have to do”. And I can do that every month or for years and then I can blame the “circumstances” for my health situation. Or I can be surprised that after I have stopped this cycle, and finally have time to relax and regenerate at home, that it’s too late and I’m sick and alone.

The second option is say, “fuck it” and choose things that could seem important but are not. Once I don’t need to fight I become the winner of my time. Fighting with time is something very special. People love it! How we can fight something that’s abstract – it’s like fighting with air. You can punch the air but your hand will hit yourself in the end.

This is just an example of the illusion we live in. We think we don’t have time or we have it fight with it. If you’re interested in this topic and you feel like this bubble also covers your life, then you may find the movie ‘Click’ even more convincing.

I hope it inspires you! Have a beautiful day my dear.

Bara with love

Your confusion is a little bit justified because my online time is really different to the other performers. What I’m offering is to discuss the sexual topic that you’re most interested in; this could be relationships, sexuality, sexual technique – whatever you like. We can have a private chat where we share more intimate things and go deeper into your chosen topic.

Sometimes I’m giving you tips on how to become more sensitive and enjoy intense orgasms, or showing penis massage techniques or how to massage a woman’s breasts the way she’ll never forget. We can discuss whatever sexual and life topic you want to look at more closely and make clearer.

I’m here especially for those of you who are interested in “something more” and if I say “more” I mean another step, another way to experience life and sex. It’s about what you’re bringing to the session from within you. I’m waiting for your input and we can follow any path you feel compelled to walk down. I have very nice connection with a few of you already, thanks to the time we spend together privately – it’s very precious.

There is no obvious way to name or categorise this session or our meeting because it’s not only psychotherapy, or just sharing intimacy, or only friendly chat – it’s a cocktail of those three main attributes. And all three are based on mutual respect and trust.

We have many options for the meeting. The usual session in the temple in Sitges takes two or three hours and there is reason for that. We need the time to first get relaxed and build our connection. I don’t want you to buy credits for a two hour online session, but just please don’t expect the magic to happen in just ten minutes. I suggest at least 20 minutes, ideally longer.

Remember everything depends on your real intention. You can drink instant coffee in two minutes. Or you can go to a special Italian cafe to have a whole experience: the atmosphere, the smell and the taste of real coffee. And it likely takes longer than two minutes.

And someone will drink instant coffee all their life and never try to invest the time into the new experience of real coffee, and this is fine also. Life is the question of our choice.

Everyone is invited on free chat to get a clearer idea about me and than you can schedule your private session.

And if I’m free at that moment and you’re also ready, then that’s perfect; we can get started right away.

I was teenager when I found this book in my mother’s cabinet in between clothes. And I never forget how they mentioned that before mouthwash and chewing gum existed people used fresh mint leaves to freshen the mouth.

And that’s what I want to closer examine: our hygiene ritual for the preparation our body! I believe this ritual deserves more attention than five minutes in the bathroom. Because how prepared we are when meet our lover shows how much we care about the quality of that meeting.

I don’t want to sound like your mother, reminding you to wash behind your ears. But I have my own experience with lovers, some of which had better awareness of hygiene than others! In fact, some had no idea.

So I want to bring some light to this topic. And this is a message for both genders: HYGIENE REALLY MATTERS!

Here are a few routines that are good to include before potential sexual play:

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Mouths and breath – Because fluent breathing is important, as you know already, you want to be able to relax the mouth and jaw and open them whenever you feel you need to. Relaxed mouths = relaxed pelvis. And of course, there is kissing. It’s very nice when you can breathe to each other’s faces and feel fresh and comfortable with that. Use everything that is necessary for you to get to this point of fresh and juicy breath that calls to your lover, ‘kiss me!’

2.
Shaving intimate parts – Personally, I think these days we put to much attention on shaving and following fashion to be perfect and stylish.
I think in the first place it should be how we feel, not how the partner likes it; in the end it’s your body and your hair. Imagine two people shaved two days ago playing and making love, it’s like Velcro. The skin is over sensitive and soft friction is impossible.

3.
Perfume and deodorant or having a refreshing shower – Some people prefer fragrance or perfume rather than smelling the person who is underneath. I find this is a shame because a natural smell can stimulate us much stronger than any perfume. I prefer to be able smell the real fragrance of the man I’m sharing those moments with (of course, after he and I took a shower), because body odor can make us very excited or very frustrated. It depends on the type of odor. It’s like a moment of truth!
If you’re going to experiment with focusing on scent I promise it’s going to give you a new dimension. And I would say it’s one of the indicators that show how compatible we are on a sexual level.

4.
Cleansing of intimate parts – You may feel like that’s clear, I just want to add a little detail. The vagina has an acid pH level, which is why women usually use special intimate gel, as using normal soap can be a real disaster for her the next day. The same is valid for men; normal soap can dry up the sensitive skin or cause irritation. And if you have unprotected intercourse it has the same effect for her as if she used the soap directly. Not all women are aware of this or are not brave enough to explain to their partner. Doctors also recommend cleansing only with warm water.

You may also perform your cleansing ritual together and talk about what like on each other. What I mean is you may help clean or shave each other, whatever you both like. Just ask for it in a nice way and play and serve each other for a little while. I really recommend this it’s good fun.

I found these topics very interesting. Think of it like a little inspiration because it’s very personal and each one of us has to find our own way that fits perfectly.

And if you feel any kind of emotion while reading I’m very happy. Wishing you adventures on your journey!