I was teenager when I found this book in my mother’s cabinet in between clothes. And I never forget how they mentioned that before mouthwash and chewing gum existed people used fresh mint leaves to freshen the mouth.

And that’s what I want to closer examine: our hygiene ritual for the preparation our body! I believe this ritual deserves more attention than five minutes in the bathroom. Because how prepared we are when meet our lover shows how much we care about the quality of that meeting.

I don’t want to sound like your mother, reminding you to wash behind your ears. But I have my own experience with lovers, some of which had better awareness of hygiene than others! In fact, some had no idea.

So I want to bring some light to this topic. And this is a message for both genders: HYGIENE REALLY MATTERS!

Here are a few routines that are good to include before potential sexual play:

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Mouths and breath – Because fluent breathing is important, as you know already, you want to be able to relax the mouth and jaw and open them whenever you feel you need to. Relaxed mouths = relaxed pelvis. And of course, there is kissing. It’s very nice when you can breathe to each other’s faces and feel fresh and comfortable with that. Use everything that is necessary for you to get to this point of fresh and juicy breath that calls to your lover, ‘kiss me!’

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Shaving intimate parts – Personally, I think these days we put to much attention on shaving and following fashion to be perfect and stylish.
I think in the first place it should be how we feel, not how the partner likes it; in the end it’s your body and your hair. Imagine two people shaved two days ago playing and making love, it’s like Velcro. The skin is over sensitive and soft friction is impossible.

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Perfume and deodorant or having a refreshing shower – Some people prefer fragrance or perfume rather than smelling the person who is underneath. I find this is a shame because a natural smell can stimulate us much stronger than any perfume. I prefer to be able smell the real fragrance of the man I’m sharing those moments with (of course, after he and I took a shower), because body odor can make us very excited or very frustrated. It depends on the type of odor. It’s like a moment of truth!
If you’re going to experiment with focusing on scent I promise it’s going to give you a new dimension. And I would say it’s one of the indicators that show how compatible we are on a sexual level.

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Cleansing of intimate parts – You may feel like that’s clear, I just want to add a little detail. The vagina has an acid pH level, which is why women usually use special intimate gel, as using normal soap can be a real disaster for her the next day. The same is valid for men; normal soap can dry up the sensitive skin or cause irritation. And if you have unprotected intercourse it has the same effect for her as if she used the soap directly. Not all women are aware of this or are not brave enough to explain to their partner. Doctors also recommend cleansing only with warm water.

You may also perform your cleansing ritual together and talk about what like on each other. What I mean is you may help clean or shave each other, whatever you both like. Just ask for it in a nice way and play and serve each other for a little while. I really recommend this it’s good fun.

I found these topics very interesting. Think of it like a little inspiration because it’s very personal and each one of us has to find our own way that fits perfectly.

And if you feel any kind of emotion while reading I’m very happy. Wishing you adventures on your journey!

Relationships are about finding the balance between two people; and, in the end, also the balance inside each of us. That’s why we’re meeting opposite poles of ourselves, and discovering new aspects of our own characters. Because that’s the learning required to walk the path to greater harmony.

A common combination is a very quiet person and an easily explosive partner. Why? Because they are the teachers of each other. The quiet, more passive person shows the receptive and feminine quality to the partner. And visa versa. It’s probable that the bigger the distance between two people’s differences the more difficult it is to maintain harmony and peace in that relationship. But for many people they’re naturally tempted into this kind of relationship.

This is just an example, but every relationship scenario is always a learning experience and may also cause beautiful healing, too. I believe that we can become enlightened through conscious relationships.

As a person slowly balances himself, he will naturally meet more balanced people. Then he will probably look back at crazy arguments of the past and shake his head in disbelief.

But, of course, we have to fall off the bike many times before we become a good rider. And we’ll never regret those falls because now we can enjoy the pleasure of riding fast when we want, or simply slowing down if we feel like it.

I’m sure everyone experiences this tender period, when the desires are strong and patience necessary. We can choose to manipulate the other person to make them want us. And sometimes we’ll be successful, but it will never be pure love anymore or fulfilling for us.

We’re like a moon flower opening only under the light of a full moon. When the light touches the flower she can trust that this is the right moment to open and blossom in a very tender and special way. She is waiting for this moment and it’s impossible to fake or manipulate her to open quicker.

When two people get together it’s like two special flowers, each has their own time when it’s possible to open and blossom. And sometimes it takes a fucking long time and the other is already getting crazy or thinking it will never happen.

I want to talk about a longing that you may also experience. I have just discovered this feeling. While not knowing exactly what I can expect from the person I like, the desire to manipulate the situation is there.

But when I overcome the temptation to manipulate the person and their feelings and have trust that everything is perfect as it is, then I enter a place of ‘heart longing’. It’s about simply waiting for this beautiful flower to open to me, not trying to open it.

It can be a very difficult feeling when I want someone and he is not sure if he is ready to open too. When I say ‘open’ I mean the kind of vulnerable and sensitive intimate space where I would like to meet him. I did not understand why it happened so many times to me, until I understood that god blessed me to be able to feel strong desire for men, for love, for intimacy.

This state of heart longing is like a moment of inspiration for me. I can use the clarity of my mind in a creative way, which gives me boundless possibilities. The soul knows exactly what the body needs because this is a moment of perfect connection between all aspects of your being. This feeling may only last for a couple of minutes, but time doesn’t matter here. And it doesn’t mater if we get what we want, what’s important is to transmit the desire into heart longing, the universal love that has no conditions.

What I mean is that we should not put any expectations onto the subject of our desire, because we don’t want to kill the flower that inspired us. But definitely we need to have many subjects of the desire to move us forward.

At least, I do! Thank you my sweet men!